New year, same me

I’ve always loved this time of year. There’s something about the idea of a fresh new start that makes me feel focused, renewed, motivated — ready to set goals and smash them. But this year I don’t feel invigorated. I just feel kind of lost. This season of my life has been really, really hard,…

When anti-dieting feels dismissive

When I was in my early 20s, just out of college and adjusting to Real Life, I wanted to lose weight, and couldn’t figure out why it wasn’t happening. I watched what I ate (obsessively), I worked out (obsessively), but the scale never budged…so then I binged. I was so frustrated I decided to return…

Control isn’t coming

When I was a kid, my changing body drove me crazy. I was getting larger in all the ways I didn’t want to. Taller? Nope. Wider? Constantly. Why couldn’t I make my body do what I wanted? Why couldn’t I control it? I had control over so little then. My class schedule, my teachers, my…

Giving thanks for giving up

Here we are again, y’all. The holidays. It’s the time of year dieters and binge eaters dread all year long: the food is SO good, the temptation is SO bad, and the guilt is so deeply ingrained that it’s a point of conversation at holiday celebrations. Yep. All across the globe, we’re wading through airport…

Learn to rest, not to quit.

Whoa. Hi again. It’s me, I’m alive. I swear I didn’t plan to drop off the face of the earth into a black hole. All I did was have a baby! …..and then I dropped off the face of the earth into a black hole. Babies, man. I didn’t announce that I’d be taking time…

What self-love means to me

Rise and shine, Valentines. I know this day can be pretty weird if you don’t have that special love in your life. And I don’t even mean a significant other — I mean self-love. Self-love looks and feels different for everyone. For some, self-love is visible and outspoken and expressive — maybe bikinis on the beach,…

Beware the word “healthy”

“Healthy” is an empty word. You have to fill it. Defining this word for yourself is both an opportunity and an imperative. Unless you take the time to think critically about what “healthy” means to you, the gazillion-dollar diet industry will find your weaknesses and exploit them. It’s that very special time of year where…

Don’t sacrifice 90% of your life to weigh 10 pounds less

Weight loss isn’t easy. It’s really hard. It takes a full-time commitment, laser focus, and a lot of sacrifices. I used to think that made it a noble pursuit — an admirable, even enviable, way to live a life. I no longer feel that way. At the end of it all, what do I get?…

Don’t let diet culture fill in the blanks

Humans communicate in shorthand and subtext. Who has the time or inclination to spell out every single implication within every single comment every single day? Sometimes we aren’t even consciously aware of the hidden meanings in the things we say! This leaves the listener with a lot of unknowns, and our own cultural experiences and…

Balance is not a number

You cannot count it. You can’t measure it or weigh it. You can only feel it. Balance is not a job. You are not required to clock in and out, or think about it every moment of every day, or arrange for special days off. You are allowed to keep it in the back of…