Six-month reset: Before and after

In the diet world, before and afters are all about how you look. This one is different: it’s about how you feel. A healthy relationship with food isn’t just about what you’re eating; it’s about what you’re thinking and feeling while you’re eating. And the spectacular thing about food sanity is that it silences all the noise…

How saying yes changed my life

Diets create a life of no. “No I can’t have that. No I’m not allowed. No I don’t deserve that.” But YOU have the power to start saying yes instead. For me, it all started with a breakup. A brutal, rug-out-from-under-me dumping.  I thought we were about to move in together; I learned that actually the whole relationship had…

What is emotional eating?

Since the phrase “emotional eating” entered the lexicon in the 1980s, diet culture has been exploiting it. Our diet-obsessed society equates hunger with feelings, and we are taught to resist, suppress, and stigmatize it accordingly. While deep emotional wounds are certainly at the heart of some eating disorders, “emotional eating” should not be automatically assumed as…

If you’re not hungry enough to eat an apple…

…maybe you’re just in the mood for something else. Jeez. You know that old diet trope “If you’re not hungry enough to eat an apple, you’re not hungry”? I used to live by that — or tried to, anyway. But man oh man, I just never ever ever wanted an apple. And that provided me…

Numbers drive me nuts

Dieting is like a little prison built out of numbers. For people like me, counting, tracking, and measuring are not harmless ways to track your “progress.” They are sneaky little judgment weapons. Applying numerical ideals to your hunger or the size of your body is an invitation for obsession. You might as well walk outside and shout at…

I love coffee, but it doesn’t love me back

Obviously I’m obsessed with the philosophy of enjoying whatever you want, whenever you want it. But there’s one thing in my life that isn’t so clear-cut. Coffee. Beautiful, bitter, black coffee. I’ve struggled with annoying digestive issues post-eating disorder, and I’ve tried cutting out all sorts of things to make it better. Gluten, nightshades, corn,…