Maybe pretty isn’t the point

“Pretty” is complicated. I want to be pretty, but I’m not sure that I am pretty, and I don’t want to want to be pretty because that makes me shallow, but it’s always there, just the same: I want to be pretty. That’s why I loved this latest Ask Polly column from New York Magazine….

What is diet culture?

When you’re surrounded by diet culture, it can be hard to see what’s right in front of you. In light of NEDA’s Eating Disorder Awareness Week, I want to talk a bit about the words and actions that perpetuate diet culture every day. It’s not enough to discuss eating disorder symptoms and prevalence and call it…

How do I love me? Let me count the ways

Whether you’re single or coupled or somewhere in the abyss in between, I hope you remember who your true valentine is, today and every day. Your damn self. You’re the one who makes you happy. No outward force can do that for you. Contentment and fulfillment come from listening really hard to your inner self,…

It is not your job to fit the jeans

The jeans are supposed to fit you. They have one job. You pay them for it. And if they don’t do the job, FIRE THEM. Get new ones. Don’t read into it. Don’t stress about it. It isn’t worth another moment of your precious life. When a pair of jeans doesn’t fit you, it is…

Hunger is not all in your head

Is breathing all in your head? C’mon. Don’t let diet culture gaslight your body’s most basic needs. And don’t do it to yourself. Can you imagine if we treated other primal functions the way we treat hunger? “I’m out of breath again????? I JUST breathed.” Like breathing and blinking and sneezing and peeing, your body’s…

What exactly does it mean to be “on track”?

Because it sounds suspiciously like a diet to me. Do you ever feel like you’ve fallen off track? Like you need to get back on track? When you dig deeper into those feelings…do they alllll lead back to food? That’s a pretty serious warning sign that you are limiting your food intake and feeling guilty…