Eating is not a privilege. But movement is.

“I work out so I can keep eating burgers and pizza.” Raise your hand if you’ve ever heard something like this. Raise both hands if you’ve ever said this. Both hands up over here. This was my rallying cry back in the day. I said it proudly and unprompted whenever I ate something “naughty.” I…

Six months — and then what?

So you finished your six-month reset. a.) CONGRATS!!! You are freaking awesome and I am so happy for you. b.) What’s next? Well…it’s time to move into Phase 2, aka the rest of your life. It’s time to live your life without an eating plan. How freeing! But also: terrifying. That’s what so seductive about dieting:…

What is emotional eating?

Since the phrase “emotional eating” entered the lexicon in the 1980s, diet culture has been exploiting it. Our diet-obsessed society equates hunger with feelings, and we are taught to resist, suppress, and stigmatize it accordingly. While deep emotional wounds are certainly at the heart of some eating disorders, “emotional eating” should not be automatically assumed as…

If you’re not hungry enough to eat an apple…

…maybe you’re just in the mood for something else. Jeez. You know that old diet trope “If you’re not hungry enough to eat an apple, you’re not hungry”? I used to live by that — or tried to, anyway. But man oh man, I just never ever ever wanted an apple. And that provided me…

I don’t slip up

I eat beyond fullness sometimes, sure. But “slipping up”? Nah. That’s the guilt-trip language of diet culture, trying to pull me back into its orbit. Slipping up goes hand in hand with getting back on track, and I already know how this story goes for me — restrict, binge, restrict, binge, forever and forever amen. A slip-up…

Maybe pretty isn’t the point

“Pretty” is complicated. I want to be pretty, but I’m not sure that I am pretty, and I don’t want to want to be pretty because that makes me shallow, but it’s always there, just the same: I want to be pretty. That’s why I loved this latest Ask Polly column from New York Magazine….