5 intuitive eating tricks for Halloween treats

When you’re stuck in the binge-restrict cycle, there’s nothing scarier than a Halloween-sized bag of candy. YIKES! But you got this! If you like the candy, then eat the candy. If you don’t like the candy, then don’t eat the candy. It’s that easy! …okay, it’s not that easy. It’s actually really complicated, because we’ve…

It’s a beautiful day to start a journey

It’s June. The sixth month. The halfway point. How’s the year going? Good? Okay? Off the rails? It’s the perfect time to check in with yourself about food and body issues — what’s working for you, what isn’t, what deserves more time, and what doesn’t deserve another second. Has a well-intentioned effort to “eat healthy”…

Intuitive eating is a trust fall

I know it sounds crazy. It sounds like it’ll NEVER work. But you can’t do it halfway, or half the time, or half-heartedly. Intuitive eating demands a lot — but if you let yourself fall, it will change your life.  Think about how a trust fall works: Your partner is right there behind you, ready…

How saying yes changed my life

Diets create a life of no. “No I can’t have that. No I’m not allowed. No I don’t deserve that.” But YOU have the power to start saying yes instead. For me, it all started with a breakup. A brutal, rug-out-from-under-me dumping.  I thought we were about to move in together; I learned that actually the whole relationship had…

If you’re not hungry enough to eat an apple…

…maybe you’re just in the mood for something else. Jeez. You know that old diet trope “If you’re not hungry enough to eat an apple, you’re not hungry”? I used to live by that — or tried to, anyway. But man oh man, I just never ever ever wanted an apple. And that provided me…

A big meal is not a binge

This holiday season, I keep hearing the word “binge” tossed around really casually, online and in conversation. Like: “How to recover after your Thanksgiving binge”-type stuff. This is a ludicrous misuse of the word. And pretty reckless, too: are we seriously teaching our kids that big family meals are binges? Imagine a typical holiday meal. You’re…

5 mantras to make it through the holidays

The holidays are a fraught time of year for anyone with food issues. Are you worrying about facing your fear foods? Wondering how to stay “on track”? Afraid that if you start eating you won’t be able to stop? It doesn’t have to be this way. There is a cure for binge eating, and it…

What does “kinda full” feel like?

The only full I ever really knew was “so full I’m gonna die” full. But intuitive eating lets you experience another kind of full: kinda full. “Kinda full” is magic. This simple little feeling was one of the most empowering things I’d ever felt. For so many years before, I could never stop my eating, even…

You can survive Halloween candy

So it’s the day after Halloween, and you’re surrounded with candy. Now what? First things first: Candy isn’t bad. And you aren’t a bad person for wanting to enjoy candy! Applying moral values of goodness and badness to food is a sign of disordered eating and an old standby from the diet-guilt playbook. Now that that’s out of the…

Enough with the cheat days

Cheating on…what exactly? Cheat days seem to imply that food is a game, or a test, or a relationship. It is none of those things. Food is just food. Just an inanimate object, chillin’ on a plate. It doesn’t have moral goodness or badness. It doesn’t make rules, or punish you for breaking them. It is…

Turns out I’m still a food-control freak

I visited some friends for a weekend and when I got hungry, things got weird. So here’s what went down. My husband and I went to stay with some of his friends for a weekend. They are such lovely people and we had a great time…but. A few things. They apparently have smaller appetites than…

Why intuitive eating hasn’t worked for you

Yet. Intuitive or mindful eating boils down to eating when you feel hungry and stopping when you feel full. Which, lord knows, you’ve tried time and time and time again. Right? No one wants to feel out of control around food. No one wakes up in the morning hoping to binge until their jaw hurts….