When anti-dieting feels dismissive

When I was in my early 20s, just out of college and adjusting to Real Life, I wanted to lose weight, and couldn’t figure out why it wasn’t happening. I watched what I ate (obsessively), I worked out (obsessively), but the scale never budged…so then I binged. I was so frustrated I decided to return…

How can you stop binge eating in one day?

Eating vs. binge eating….how can they feel so incredibly different? Both involve consuming food. Both are driven by hunger. But one is complicated by the messages of diet culture, our society’s glorification of under-eating, and a lost connection with the body’s natural hunger and fullness cues. Eating is defined by the action: “I am consuming…

Here’s to a nourishing new year

What does it mean to nourish? It’s so much bigger than nutrition panels or micronutrients. It’s about how I’m feeling while I’m eating. It’s about what I’m thinking while I’m eating. And really, it’s even bigger than eating. It’s about living free of obsession or obligation. It’s about permission to feel pleasure and joy without…

Beware the word “healthy”

“Healthy” is an empty word. You have to fill it. Defining this word for yourself is both an opportunity and an imperative. Unless you take the time to think critically about what “healthy” means to you, the gazillion-dollar diet industry will find your weaknesses and exploit them. It’s that very special time of year where…

Don’t sacrifice 90% of your life to weigh 10 pounds less

Weight loss isn’t easy. It’s really hard. It takes a full-time commitment, laser focus, and a lot of sacrifices. I used to think that made it a noble pursuit — an admirable, even enviable, way to live a life. I no longer feel that way. At the end of it all, what do I get?…

Don’t let diet culture fill in the blanks

Humans communicate in shorthand and subtext. Who has the time or inclination to spell out every single implication within every single comment every single day? Sometimes we aren’t even consciously aware of the hidden meanings in the things we say! This leaves the listener with a lot of unknowns, and our own cultural experiences and…

Imagine eating a stick of butter

Picture yourself unwrapping a whole stick of butter. Now take a biiiiig bite. Chew it around your mouth, focus on the flavor. How’s it taste? Want another bite? AHHH GROSS NO THANK YOU. Even if you are in a place in your life where you feel completely out of control around food, I bet you…

Surprise! Not all cupcakes are delicious.

This was the craziest thing I came to realize during my six-month reset. All those trigger foods I was so afraid of? Some of them aren’t even that good! Just because I like cupcakes doesn’t mean I like all of them. Some cupcakes are just not delicious. Some are dry and tasteless and kinda gross….

Six months — and then what?

So you finished your six-month reset. a.) CONGRATS!!! You are freaking awesome and I am so happy for you. b.) What’s next? Well…it’s time to move into Phase 2, aka the rest of your life. It’s time to live your life without an eating plan. How freeing! But also: terrifying. That’s what so seductive about dieting:…

It’s a beautiful day to start a journey

It’s June. The sixth month. The halfway point. How’s the year going? Good? Okay? Off the rails? It’s the perfect time to check in with yourself about food and body issues — what’s working for you, what isn’t, what deserves more time, and what doesn’t deserve another second. Has a well-intentioned effort to “eat healthy”…

Intuitive eating is a trust fall

I know it sounds crazy. It sounds like it’ll NEVER work. But you can’t do it halfway, or half the time, or half-heartedly. Intuitive eating demands a lot — but if you let yourself fall, it will change your life.  Think about how a trust fall works: Your partner is right there behind you, ready…